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Sex for Money
Many men–gay, straight and bisexual–can be sexual with the same sex or the opposite sex if money is involved. Most people, however, think that if a man accepts money for sex with another man he cannot be straight.
We assume that these men are gay, or at the very least bisexual, and simply in denial about their sexuality. However, we now know that one subset of these men—straight men who enjoy getting paid for such sex—can, indeed, be heterosexual. It is not the sex that turns them on, it is the money! They have eroticized money, and the sense of value they derive from being admired and paid for performing sex acts with men.
In fact, increasingly in gay porn researchers have found straight men who enjoy participating in it. Often, they’re able to exact higher pay for performing because many gay guys are turned on by seeing straight men having gay sex—and gay men are quick to spot them. Then, when the scene is done, the straight man goes home to his wife or girlfriend, and once again immerses himself in the world of heterosexuality. Of course, this eroticization of money is not limited to straight men having gay sex. Many men and women find it enjoyable to be paid to have sex. In this “head space,” as I call it, the money is easily as important, if not more, than the sex itself.