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CUCKOLDS / Hotwifing
In the universe of sexual fantasy, cuckolding—that is, generally speaking, watching while one’s wife or partner has sex with another man, especially one with a larger penis—is nothing new. In fact, the term has been around for centuries. Traditionally it was only applied to the husband of an adulterous wife. Today it means a lot more. These are straight men who enjoy fantasies of—or the reality of—their wives and girlfriends having sex with other men either in front of them, nearby or with their knowledge about when and where it occurs. They’re often sexually aroused by feeling humiliated that their wives are being pleased by another male whom they see as more potent and better endowed.
Cuckolding is a very common fantasy among straight men. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be thousands of porn sites devoted to it. On this informational website, www.straightguise.com, the page on cuckolding gets more late night hits than any other page on the site.
Other men enjoy being sexual with other men’s wives in front of the husband or at least with their knowledge. This is called “Hotwifing”. Often in the cuckolding fantasy they engage in sexual behavior with the man but only in the presence of the wife or girlfriend. Without her they are left cold and unaroused by each other. Straight men are willing to have sex with other men in cuckold scenes with a woman present, and love it. It can be intricately connected to feelings of shame and humiliation for the cuckold, which the cuckolded partner finds highly pleasurable and erotically arousing in the fantasy.
Other variations include “footcuck,” where the cuckold is a foot slave to her and the man she’s having sex with. Often, when his partner finds a “bull” and brings him home to have sex, the cuckold is forced to get both of them sexually aroused with his mouth and/or hands and watch and often even clean them up afterward. Sometimes the cuckold masturbates while watching, other times he is tied, gagged and forced to watch. Other times he has to sit in another part of the room and even made to film it and watch it later—all the while being very aroused. Remember this is all role-play and fantasy.
There are a growing number of gay men interested in cuckolding now where the boyfriend or husband of a gay man brings home another man with a bigger penis to humiliate his husband or boyfriend. Everyone in this fantasy is aroused. In this case, everyone is gay or bisexual. To read more about this click here. I suggested those interested in this play to take a look at psychologist David Ley’s Insatiable Wives, which considers cuckolding from a number of angles.